When life throws you a curve ball, you need to catch it and throw it right back…with everything you got! This is how I feel about my “unexplained infertility.” Yes, I could sit back and say all the negative things in the book but really, where does that get me? NO WHERE. If you are also going through IVF or have been through fertility treatments in the past you know that not only does it take a toll on you as a women emotionally and physically but your marriage also suffers.
It’s like you are thrown into a hedge maze (think Alice in Wonderland) with a timer on you (tick tock, tick tock) where you can’t see over the hedge. It’s incredibly frustrating not knowing where you are going, how to get out or why you are even in this hedge maze to begin with. The world feels like it’s caving in on you, everything is falling apart and you are just one injection away from booking that flight to Paris and never looking back.
If you watched my latest vlog you see that I had a bit of a “hormone show” at the doctors office with my husband. It made me realize that I need to take a step back and be more kind, show patience and be loving. This is just a little bump in the road of our journey together. It’s times like these that make your marriage stronger not weaker. Don’t get me wrong, I am normally crazy to my husband without hormones so with the BCP and the hormones it can get out of hand. Everyone that is going through IVF has had the meltdowns, fights, threats of not cooking dinner EVER AGAIN and just plain old I AM OUT OF HERE nonsense. YES, I am here to tell you that you are normal. Even though no one talks about all the fights, the crazy meltdowns we all go through them. The part that you have to remember is to laugh.
You have to have a sense of humor and remember why you said “I Do.”
I came across these pictures the other day form our wedding when I was organizing and wanted to share with you girls. Take yourself back to the happy moments you had at your wedding, your honeymoon, first date whatever it is. Treat your husband with love and kindness throughout this entire process. In life if you want more love you have to give more love. We need to remember it’s not just us women going through this and feeling the emotions, our husbands are right there silently freaking out, trying to hold it together and taking a beating night and day from our new altered state.
IVF gets better, believe me I am completely different on my second round than I was my first. I honestly don’t even like thinking about how stressed out and crazy I was the first time around. So take a break from being so hard on yourself, lighten up, watch a comedy together, laugh, join my IVF Style Book Club, go out and dance all night sans cocktails. Whatever makes you laugh and love again, Do It.
Love Always Wins!