Let’s start off our week knowing that Yes, You Can Go Your Own Way! I should insert Fleetwood Mac’s “You Can Go Your Own Way” song right about now. I have learned a lot these past four years of doing the TTC (trying to conceive). Some days have been better than others as you might have seen on my vlog channel. I have learned that there is not just one direction, one answer, one road, one doctor or one opinion or second opinion for that matter to your infertility journey. It’s up to YOU to find your path.
I ran into a colleague the other day that I haven’t seen in years. She was strolling around with her twins, and we started talking and catching up, she threw in our brief conversation the infertility bomb something about having to do fertility treatments (refreshing to have women honest and raw) and I said I know all too well about IVF, I have done five rounds. She was shocked and horrified at the same time FIVE????? Well, were you successful? Uh, No, as a matter of fact, we were not as of yet. I was starting to think about how I felt when it’s assumed that if you go through that many rounds of IVF, you have to have had at least one round work right? I felt a little like an infertility loser yet again. Let’s be real though we HAVE had success. We produced two normal PGS tested embryos but in the IVF world unless you deliver a healthy baby it’s all just numbers and statistics.
My journey started out like probably everyone else’s did that’s in their mid to late thirties. You get married, think you are going to get pregnant on your honeymoon then three months goes by and nothing, then six months nothing. You talk to your OBGYN that’s clueless about infertility, so you are a little lost as to where to go. You feel pressure because you are not twenty-one with thousands of eggs just waiting to be fertilized. You google “infertility” and the clinic that has the most money and pays for the most advertising pops up so you go. You find out that you are part of a herd of women trying to get pregnant. You can’t believe how many women are in the waiting room. Life seems surreal.
You meet with whatever reproductive endocrinologist is on staff that day, do the transvaginal ultrasound, bloodwork, HSG test, etc. You meet back two weeks later to talk about the results and then get your diagnosis. We never really got a diagnosis because “unexplained infertility” is a working diagnosis. So there you are one hot infertility mess. I never even wanted to go to a reproductive endocrinologist, and I said I would never do IVF. I was very resistant to even making the initial appointment for testing. It’s amazing to me how little we knew about the business of making babies.
I want to make sure that everyone reading this post knows that I am not a medical professional nor do I pretend to be. I am not giving you medical advice or telling you what direction or path you should go regarding your infertility journey. What I am telling you is that I am a woman that has been told one too many times that I am old (was under 40 years old when I started) or should I say “Advanced Maternal Aging” to be politically correct, and I should just do donor eggs. I am not a scorned infertility woman as some might think, I am a woman that doesn’t sit back and say “Sure, Great, OK, Thanks.”
I am a woman that doesn’t sit back and say “Sure, Great, OK, Thanks.”
My path would be entirely different if I sat in my follow up appointment for our third failed round of IVF and just listened to my doctor in his condescending voice “You can move on to donor eggs.” I think why I keep bringing this up to you girls is that I don’t understand how a medical doctor can tell me the patient to do donor eggs when he refused to PGS (pre genic screening) test my embryos. PGS testing would tell us on a scientifically proven chromosome level if my embryos were abnormal. If I sat back and just said “OK” to his ridiculous recommendation and just gave up, I wouldn’t have found out that I/we do make normal embryos. It just blows my mind that as a patient you can ask for certain tests and get told NO. PGS testing for my age is standard practice or at least it should be.
I have learned from my infertility journey you have to gear up and get in the ring. Can you do one round of IVF and win? Yes, it’s true like my recent run in with my colleague, she did IVF once and was fortunate not with one baby but twins. I don’t know all the details of her cycle, her eggs? Donor eggs? Who knows and who really cares. It’s not about comparing yourself to other infertility women. You are on this path for a reason and I one hundred percent believe this. You have the power to change the direction of your infertility journey. It’s up to you to get the knowledge that you need to make the right decisions. No one is going to serve it up to you on a silver platter.
It’s up to YOU to direct your infertility journey.
If you have had tons of failure like me, don’t keep looking back. I did this for months. I would obsess about all my cycles how I was treated and what went wrong. It’s not productive to keep your mind in the past. The only way out is through with infertility. The second you feel like giving up is the time you kick yourself in the butt and do more research, talk to more IVF sisters, build your infertility support system. You do not give up because you will never know what’s at the end of this infertility game for you. Could you sleep at night knowing that you gave up, and your next cycle was THE CYCLE? Hey, if you are OK with that then great but for those of you out there that are hanging on by a string like myself kick it up a notch. Get passionate about your life, your fertility, your husband, your job, figuring it out. Infuse yourself with the power of positive thinking, reading, doing. Infertility is not for wussy pussy’s as Lisa Vanderpump would say.
So where do you go when you have maxed out science? We have turned to the Stork OTC. I have mentioned the Stork OTC in many of my blogs and on my YouTube channel. If you missed my review of the Stork last year, you could read it here and here. We got punched quite a bit over the last two years of doing fertility treatments. It’s not fun injecting yourself non-stop (over four hundred injections in my case) having to meet the vaginal wand every morning at your 8 am doctor appointment and feel like a statistic. I was excited and surprised when I found the Stork at my local CVS last year when I was searching for new products on the market in between my IVF cycles.
Instead of just giving up and saying WOW I guess it’s not meant to be since we transferred a normal PGS tested embryo we are taking our fertility into our hands right now. There is no giving up, no pity party, no poor me look at all the crap we went through. NO, I am part of a larger group of women that have been through the grind with invasive treatments, failure after failure and so much disappointment. The theme when my husband and I started this whole journey back in 2014 was “Figure It Out.”
Figure It Out.
So on the heels of our failed FET in February of this year, we started using the Stork OTC in addition to addressing my high natural killer cells more on my immune issues here. I will be doing a full review on my YouTube channel this month for those of you that would like to know my thoughts on how it works, using it and how it feels. It’s empowering that there is an FDA approved at home conception aid available to us. We look at it as our own private IUI. It’s so stress-free and affordable. It’s a nice reprieve to use a fertility device in the comfort of our home. No doctor appointments, no more medical bills, and no more synthetic hormones.
Head over to CVS where the Stork OTC is running a Buy 1, Get 1 50% off from July 1st through August 31st, 2016. Use Coupon code Stork50 at checkout. An excellent opportunity to boost your fertility, enjoy the summer and be stress-free. I will be announcing my big summer Giveaway on my blog this month which will include a Stork OTC among other fabulous goodies!!!! Check back and make sure you sign up for my Newsletter for exclusive updates.
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